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Forgive Yourself


Forgive yourself. You can, you know. The pain is not worth the scars that grow building walls of hate around your heart that keep you separate, from being a part of the love that God sheds abroad on mankind for all who would see it without being blind.


Forgive yourself. It is balm for the soul. It helps you heal so that you can be whole. It gives you a sense of worth to yourself, and keeps you from being left on the shelf to wither and die of loneliness there, a burden no being need ever bear.

Forgive yourself. You deserve a break, for life is not just made out of fate. There are choices we make in and around. We all make mistakes, but we can rebound. There will always be lessons that we can learn, there is always another dollar to earn.

Forgive yourself. Let yourself live! There is plenty of time for you to give. It isn’t necessary to put yourself out to the point that you want to grumble and shout. Let yourself breathe, take some time to relax, you needn’t be burdened and overtaxed!

Forgive yourself for that’s what Christ would do, if He were here and in your shoe. Accept the gift that He gave on the cross, the price that He paid so that none would be lost. Embrace Him now, feel of His love, and let the sun shine, a gift from above!

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Affirmations 1


I had never heard of affirmations until my stay in the mental health unit. There, I learned that it is necessary to nurture myself in order to keep my emotional health. Affirmations are one way to do this. They are one sentence statements containing truthful information that speak to our souls. Repeated regularly, they build up our feelings of worth and give us the ammunition we need to fight the distorted thought patterns that try to take over.

A favorite affirmation for me is “I am a worthwhile human being.” I sing it as a vocal exercise starting on a low note with the syllable “Ah” and slurring up an octave higher with “I”, then coming down the scale with the words “am a worthwhile human being.” It gets my heart pumping and my feelings of worth strong.

In Overcoming Fear of the Unknown in the Workplace (see article), I talk about the difference between irrational affirmations and rational ones. When choosing affirmations, we have to be careful that we do not set ourselves up for problems. See the examples below from the article:

Irrational Affirmation – I am in control. Problem:  being in control means we are responsible for the outcome. When the outcome is not good, our self-worth decreases.

Replace with this Rational Affirmation – I am prepared. Benefits: preparation breeds flexibility. When outcomes do not look good, we are able to rethink what is happening, change our course of action, and keep our self-worth intact.

Irrational Affirmation – I am important. Problem: feeling important makes us think that our needs will be met by others. When they are not, our feelings of importance decrease and we loose our self-esteem.

Replace with this Rational Affirmation – I am needed. Benefits:  no matter where we serve, there is always something that needs to be done. As we see these things and act on them, our feelings of self-worth increase, as well as our value to the organization.

When we choose affirmations that build our feelings of self-esteem, we re-enforce the innate worth that we already have. This gold mine in our souls is a never-ending source of strength and stability. It keeps us moving in a positive direction, no matter what happens in life.

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